‘You’ve a bigger agenda, don’t you?’ April 24, 2012Posted by irishelectionliterature in Gender Issues.
Some of you may have seen the reports of Senator Rónán Mullens behaviour in a Leinster House meeting last week to three women who had pregnancies in which their babies were diagnosed with abnormalities “incompatible with life” . The women like thousands others travelled to Britain to have their pregnancies terminated.
The women had previously been interviewed in the Irish Times and last Friday appeared on the Late Late Show.
Its covered by Maman Poulet and by Broadsheeet.ie, it was also covered in the Irish Times.
The recent X-Case motion in the Dail and these women (and their partners) reminded me of how many stories of such cases I’d heard in the past year. They are tragic.
A few months ago a friend mentioned how one of his neighbours called in to say that another neighbour who was pregnant called in and asked him to “spread the word” that the baby wasn’t viable. They were going away for a few days and asked that when they got back people not to ask “how long are you gone?”, “must be soon now”, “enjoy your sleep while you can” and all the other platitudes.
Last month I got daily updates from another couple I know who were in a similar situation and had to go to England. Imagine the simple stupid things they had to think of, they had to get the dog minded, pack bags, all the stuff associated with travel and so on. It just makes an awful situation much much worse.
In these instances it is losing a baby plain and simple and trying to manage a horrific situation. Anyone who has lost a baby in any circumstances will know the heartache associated with it.
“The baby would have been born today” , “The baby would have been six months today” , “The baby would have been starting school today” … It’s a horrible sense of loss especially after the high of being told there’s a baby on the way. The plans, the telling expectant grandparents, uncles , aunts…..
… and Mullen allegedly asks one of these traumatized women … ‘You’ve a bigger agenda, don’t you?’
Ever so slightly related… whilst on the RTE site looking for last Fridays Late Late I found this on the RTE Player in the RTE TV50 section…
In the light of the tragic deaths in Granard the previous week of a teenage mother and her baby, The Women’s Programme discussed attitudes to teenage sexuality. Presented by Doireann Ní Bhriain, Nell McCafferty and Marian Finucane.